This I Believe
All our lives we are surrounded by judgement and criticism. Everything we do everyone has an opinion on. Those opinions can be positive, but a lot of the time those opinions are negative. What people think of us and how we express ourselves can alter the decisions we make or the risks we take. We can’t make everyone stop having negative opinions, but we can ignore what people think of us. I believe that to truly be happy and love yourself you need to not care about what people think. Being a teenager I feel like I can really give insight on this topic. I’m at a point in my life where my peers and I are figuring out who we are. We are deciding what values we have. We are deciding how we want to dress. We are deciding how we want to style our hair. There are so many decisions we make everyday on how we want to present ourselves. There are also so many stereotypes around us trying to tell us how we should be. Our classmates will make negative comments about our outfits. Everyday there is some type of negativity about something we like about ourselves. That negativity can discourage us and make us change things about ourselves. What other people think about us can drastically change how we present ourselves. If we ignore all the negative opinions that other people have on us and our appearance we can truly be the people we want to be and look how we want to and love ourselves for it. Personally, I really try to not care about what anyone thinks of me as long as it makes me happy. That doesn’t mean that I don’t get discouraging comments about how I present myself. In 6th grade I cut my hair really short. I loved it, but a lot of other people had other opinions. People would (and still do say) I look like a boy. At first I would get so upset and angry. I would go on a whole rant about how girls can have short hair too. No matter how many speeches I gave almost no one's opinions changed. Now, I’m about to graduate from 8th grade and I still have really short hair. I still have short hair because I chose to ignore the opinions of others. To this day I still get comments about how I look like a boy or random strangers will think I’m a boy. The difference between 6th grade and now is that I laugh off those comments. I do this because my short hair makes me happy and I think I am beautiful. That should be all that matters. We should make changes to our appearance for ourselves. Anything that makes you happy, do it and screw what any toxic friend or random stranger might say because why should you hold back from doing something that will make you happy just because of a stupid negative opinion? Some people may think that listening to the negative comments is important because then it will stop you from doing something you will regret. I disagree. If you want to do something because you think it will make you look good or make you feel happy and then someone tells you it’s a bad idea or you will look ugly and you don’t do it then that’s the decision you should regret. Having other people dictate how you express yourself is not how you achieve loving yourself. If you present yourself how other people will like you, then that’s not really you. How can you love a version of yourself that only exists to satisfy others’ visions of how you’re supposed to be? That’s why you need to ignore what other people say and take the risks you want to. If you always stop yourself from doing something because other people made you feel bad for it then you will be a totally different person. You’ll never know the person you could have been. Even when you make the decisions about your appearance that you think will make you happy and you ignore the hate from everyone else, things can still go wrong. You could get a haircut that you hate. Everyone could have told you it was a bad idea, but you still went through with it because you thought YOU were going to love it. Even if you don’t like that part of your appearance you can remember that hair grows back. Any decision you make about your appearance isn’t permanent. So, those negative comments really start to mean less to you once you realize that hair grows back, clothes can be changed, makeup can be wiped off, anything can be changed. You learn from those “bad” decisions though. All those different appearance changes make you who you truly are. Then, there will be times when you ignore the hate and buy that dress and you feel amazing. Everyone could look at you like you’re crazy, but inside you feel beautiful and you love yourself for going for it. Every decision you make is really a 50/50 shot at you loving it or hating, but every decision is important in your self love journey. When you get to the point in your life where you can do anything you want without even considering a negative comment from someone else is when you know you have really made it. You can truly be happy because you’re the realest version of yourself. You can move on from the bad haircuts, or ugly shirts and love yourself for you. You can be proud that you overcame the comments and finally tried the makeup look you’ve been wanting to for months. Once you stop caring about what other people say you can be happy with who you are because you will do all the things that make you happy. So, get that haircut, buy that outfit, try that makeup look, dye your hair blue. Do whatever you want because what anyone else thinks does not matter at all. I believe that to truly be happy and love yourself you need to not care about what anyone else thinks. This I believe.
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